Get answers to wedding planning questions that can be awkward to ask.
Wedding planning can be a fun, but a stressful and daunting time too. You both have to agree on flowers, bridesmaids and groomsmen, a venue, destination or not, and to top it all off - you have discuss the finances. With all of this comes some difficult questions you may have to ask of your fiancé, wedding party and parents. Don’t let the idea of the decision making and asking awkward wedding planning questions get you down. Yes, you want things your way for your big day and the “Ask Expert” Laura Fredricks has some tips to getting the answers you want.
5 Awkward Wedding Planning Questions
1. How to ask guests to travel for a destination wedding?
With having to request time off and travel costs, this is a difficult question to ask family and friends. Let your loved ones know that you would love for them to help you celebrate and you know that it requires extra time and money to do so. Maybe they could plan a vacation around your wedding? And throwing in a little tid-bit about extending nights at your wedding rate wouldn’t hurt!
2. How to ask your parents to help pay for the wedding?
You two are adults and want to be able to do it all on your own, but it’s smart to ask for help when you need it. Keep in mind that money is a sensitive issue even when it’s related to the parentals. Neither of you want to distract yourselves from the happiness of the wedding coming, but when the time comes, it’s a question that must be asked. Lead with what is already paid for and being paid for, then ask for help with the things that are left to be paid for.
3. How to ask a loved one to be a guest and not a member of the wedding party?
This is not so much a question as it is a statement or answer to someone asking if they’re going to be in your wedding. Yes, everyone wants to be part of the special occasion, but not everyone can be in the wedding and we’re sure your loved can understand that having lots of people in the wedding can be a financial strain. Before you get asked, be upfront and explain to them that as much as you’d love to have a big bridal party, you hope they can support your decision to keep it small and add that the person is still an important person and friend, and you hope it won’t affect your friendship.
4. How to request to cut the guest list?
A hundred guests can easily get to 500 guests. Sometimes it sneaks up on you and you don’t realize it until you begin to make seating charts. The funny thing is it seems that parents and in-laws add people to the guest list as if it’s their wedding. Of course they’re excited and want to show you all off the all of their friends and church members but cuts sometimes have to be made to keep wedding costs down. You want to make everyone happy, yet the guest list is out of control. Just let your folks know that it’s your desire and wish to keep things more intimate and small.
5. How to ask your bridal party to spend more?
Being asked to be a bridesmaid is wonderful. Having those selected say yes is even greater but what happens when you need them to spend more money? It’s cost efficient to have your bridesmaid spend their own money, but you can help them by looking for ways to save money. The last thing you want is to put a financial burden on your friends and family for your wedding. Let your bridesmaid know that you’ve hired a makeup artist and they don’t have to worry about that expense. Offer to pay for something: their hair or help with the costs of their hair, dress, etc. Let them know that you care and you’re willing to help in any way you can, so they can stand next to you on your big day.
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