There are a number of games and activities children enjoy playing that promotes healthy social skills. The majority of the games children are encouraged to play evolve around instilling in each child a sense of superiority and developing a more competitive edge. These games always produce a winner and a loser. Some child psychologists today believe that if a child participates in highly competitive games solely, they may develop into highly competitive adults who will eventually alienate themselves from others throughout their adult life. There are however, a number of social building skills that can be produced from adolescent non competitive social games. These types of non competitive games build adolescent social skills necessary for being involved in balanced social interaction in the future. By weighing the pros and cons of competitive and non competitive social games for children we may learn how these gamescan impact your children socially!
Competitive Social games Verses Non competitive social games
Did you know that the social interactive skills you have today are the product of a number of childhood games you'd played as adolescent? As we develop into adults the largest impact on the way we socially interact are dependent on the type of social skills we developed as a child playing competitive and non competitive games. While most adolescent games may seem quite harmless the truth is the impact on a child that wins at every game played is vastly different from the impact on a child who constantly loses.
Adolescent social skills' building has been the topic of child psychologists for many years. Child Psychologists have studied the negative and positive affects on a child's social skills development based upon non competitive games verses competitive games. Excluding certain school activities and sports events children who play more competitive social games as an adolescent tend to develop a more aggressive social skill with no regard for their interpersonal interaction with others as an adult, according to child psychotherapist.
This means that a child that strives to continuously win at every competitive game will inadvertently as an adult develop a more aggressive personality that revolves around always winning. According to psychologist this greatly impacts a child by instilling an innate fear of failure and social rejection as a product of losing. While many parents believe that the competitive edge developed through competitive adolescent social games is healthy to ensure their child's future success in some cases this perception to push a child to over achieve can be more damaging than parents think.
Think about the co-worker who constantly competes with other co-workers to win the adulation of their boss in order to gain merit and promotion. Basically this person views everything as a competition and will do anything to win. This type of behavior is the product of an adolescent who was pushed to constantly win in competitive social games.
The flip side to this perception of competitive games is the fact that a highly competitive personality as an adult will produce a successful lifestyle, but at what cost is this revered when it comes to the alienation of a competitive adult.
Benefits of non competitive social games on the other hand, helps children build the social skills necessary to be apart of a team effort and the understanding of everyone's role within the team. Since most non competitive games do not involve a winner or loser, children are at ease and encouraged to work together for common senses of accomplishment. Instead non competitive games build the adolescents ability to socially interact within a group while excluding the individual desire to overcome or "beat" thier peers.
While this is a more passive proactive approach to social skills for adolescent researcher believe this type of social interactive non competitive games and activities are equally beneficial to the child's future social perceptions and interactions as an adult. The downside to non competitive games is the element of individual achievement, which according to professional child psychologist is the necessary element to a healthy and productive adult life style.
This means that a child will be more dependent on group accomplishments excluding their own self worth and therefore may not be as successful as an individual more so than as apart of the team. In this case according to professionals a child will lose the most important element essential for independent survival, which is the ability and drive to compete.
As it stands, it's more apparent that focusing heavily on one type of adolescent social skill development can be detrimental to the child's overall social well being. Combining both types competitive and non competitive games will balance a child's perception and will ultimately give them the edge in life.