It's easy to prepare for most things in life like a new job or interview, but parenthood is not one of those things. No matter how prepared you think you are, once your child arrives you'll realize how much more there is to do. So chill out, create your registry, and look forward to meeting your bundle of joy!
Your baby’s home has been your belly for the past nine months and now that he or she has arrived, are growing, learning and being a part of the world, you’ll undoubtedly freak out about a few things. But you’re not alone. Here are some things all new parents freak out about and how to ease your mind.
Women have been having babies for centuries. If they can do it, so you can you! It sounds like a scary concept but every mother goes through this scare the first time around but there are so many resources out there to help you - take advantage of them.
All new parents are terrified to drive because they now have precious cargo. If you stress about it too much, you’ll make yourself too nervous behind the wheel.
Many first time parents, have only held a baby maybe once or twice in their lives, so holding a newborn can be a little terrifying! Trust in yourself that you won’t drop them, and know that you’ll get the hang of parenthood as soon as you arrive home.
You’ve been gaining weight over the past nine months, so how could you possibly lose it all? You can and you will! Breastfeeding has actually been shown to jumpstart some weight loss!
There are no perfect parents and all new parents feel like they have no idea what they’re doing.
You’ll probably Google how to do this every time you need to clip their nails. Take a deep breath and buy baby clippers. They have a safety feature so you won’t hurt their tiny fingers.
You’ll probably hear whistling or gurgling noises but it’s normal. The breathing control center of their brain is still developing.
Newborns sleep - that’s what they do. It’s normal, so enjoy it while you can!
There's no way to really know that you're ready to be a parent, and while you might do all the research and get all the advice that you can before your baby arrives, you'll never know everything. In fact, there will always be a few things that you wish you knew - which is why we found this recent Reddit thread so useful and interesting.
We've pulled out our favorite tips and tricks from this extensive round-up of real world advice that parents wish they knew before they had a kid (and as a bonus, we've included a way to save all on your registry purchases as well!).
"Don't assume that whatever worked for you when you were a child will automatically work with your own child." Making assumptions is almost never a good idea, but it's especially important to remember that your kid is unique and it's good to look at things with new eyes.
"An ancient old lady who had six awesome kids told me "Don't ever forget your child is going to be an adult. Raise them to survive". Your precious baby won't be a baby forever.
"Read to your kid before they go to bed. It could literally be anything. Doesn't have to be a kids book. This will help them spend more time with you and improve their reading skills, and I'm sure they'll remember it when they're older." Reading plus some quality bonding time? Sounds like excellent advice to us.
"There will be times when you're at your wits end and it just. Won't. Stop. Crying.
It's ok to put the baby down, step out of the room, and take a moment to breathe/calm down/recenter yourself." Your baby will be okay if you let him or her just cry for a few minutes, really. Your sanity is vital!
On that note..."Make sure your own needs are met first. You can't do a good job parenting if you're totally frazzled from being on-call 24/7. Take breaks when you need them.
This past weekend, my wife and I and both kids were ill. The 1.5 year old was super-cranky and completely unreasonable. So we broke our TV limit rule, and basically used the TV as a babysitter while we rested."
Check out the rest of the thread for more excellent conversation about first time parenthood from people who've been there.
Choosing all the products and items on your wish list and building out your baby registry is a rite of passage for any new mom - and it can be one of the best bonding experiences with your significant other as well. However, as wonderful and dedicated as your partner might be, they are never going to have as much insight as a friend who's recently had a baby herself.
That's because a new mom has already thought through many of the things that you'll need, and she's experienced all the difficulties and surprises that come with having a baby. After all, you'll never be 100% prepared, but you can try your best - and your fellow moms are your allies. When you're having a baby (especially your first), you need all the help you can get.
Of course you need a crib, a stroller, and all that. However, did you realize that a certain type of stroller is infinitely easier to fold up and place in your car, or that you can find one that will snap around a car seat for infants? You will also probably never ever use certain items so there's no need to register for them. Having been through it already, a new mom knows what products were the biggest help for her and her baby and you can learn from it.
Another reason why you should have your mom friend or relative help with your registry is that she also knows your personality and lifestyle. For instance, if you're a techie type who'd love a baby monitor with audio and video along with plenty of other bells and whistles, then that's worth a splurge for you personally. Or if you are obsessed with design and aesthetics and want a certain look for your baby's nursery or other gear, it might be worth upgrading to some premium brands.
Walking into a store or shopping online to build a registry can be incredibly overwhelming, especially with everything else you have to do as a new mom. And since you're not buying it (yet), it can be tempting to just throw everything on there and sort it out later. However, that approach can definitely lead to you not getting the things you actually need from your registry, as well as getting things you'll never really use. And who wants that?
Becoming a mom, especially for the first time, is a complicated but rewarding journey. But you have help along the way in the form of more experienced moms, so ask for it! Especially when building your registry at our sponsor Babies"R"Us - ask for your fellow moms for tips, must-haves, and advice to help you Be Prepared-ish™.
Are you struggling to pick out a gift for the new mom in your life? Can’t decide between a diaper bag and some new pacifiers, or perhaps something for mom herself? Check out this holiday gift guide and pick out a great holiday gift for mom and her new babe.
Starting your baby registry can be overwhelming, especially if you're a first time mom. Our advice? Ask the experienced moms in your family and social circle, and check out these six things you'd never think to register for (until you need them in the middle of the night). Granted, you'll never be able to be prepared for everything, but you can Be Prepared-ish™!