There are many reasons why people make New Year's resolutions. Some want to lose weight, others want to become more organized and even some just want to have a more positive outlook on life. While making a resolution seems like a great idea, it can actually leave you feeling worse about yourself than when you initially made the goal. Here’s a list of reasons why you don’t need to make a resolution this year and you are just fine being yourself.
You're Biting Off More Than You Can Chew
When making resolutions, people sometimes bite off more than they can chew. Statements like I’m going to lose 50lbs or I am going to save money are vague and don’t create tangible steps that lead to successful goal making. Instead of trying to conquer the entire goal in one short period of time, break it down into manageable steps that can be measured and tracked.
You're Doing It for the Wrong Reasons
Sometimes people don’t set resolutions for themselves, but instead set them for someone else. This harmful pattern of behavior does not motivate the person who set the resolution, but instead, forces them to feel like they must live up to someone else’s expectations and makes them believe that their partner, parent or friend won’t love them if they can’t reach the desired outcome. Instead of living up to someone else’s dreams and visions, create your own resolution designed inspire and improve your life.
You're Not Committed To The Goal
The version of you doing the goal setting may have not really cared about the goal in the first place. You may have been going with the flow when making the resolution, you may have thought it sounded like a good idea at the time. Regardless, it’s the second week of January and you’ve already forgotten or given up. Not being committed to your resolution can cause your to break it almost sooner than it was created.
You're Increasing Self-Criticism
Making resolutions for the new year can also lead to self-criticism and doubt. Phrases like "I can’t do it", "I’m not good enough" and "I’m not worth it" sometimes come to mind. Instead of looking at all the ways you can improve, try looking at all the things you are really good instead. This can be strengths like cooking, your ability to make people laugh and your amazing smile. If you can’t find ways to inspire yourself, try asking a close friend about your strengths. Embracing yourself and leaving self-criticism behind is a great way to start off 2018!