Is it time for your elderly parents to be in a nursing home?
It can be a hard thing to face in life: the older you get, the older your parents become. There could very well come a time when they can no longer care for themselves, and it could up to you to decide what is in their best interest in the way of care. Will you be ready to start looking after elderly parents?
Deciding to Care for Your Elderly Parents at Home
For some of us, moving a parent into our homes isn't a hard decision to make. This is the person who raised us, cared for us, and were there for us. Now it's our turn to be there for them. For some, being able to help elderly parents won't be something to debate, just do. Looking after elderly parents is, after all, the least we can do. The decision may be even easier when it's a soul surviving parent.
Unfortunately, for some of us this can be a hard decision. Some people have their own families to deal with along with a full time job, and other responsibilities. It isn't wrong to have reservations about taking on the care of an elderly parent. It's natural to be cautious about what this may require and just how much time it could take away from other obligations. If it is possible to become your parent's caregiver or care attendant, there are programs that employ members of the family to do just that.
This way, it will become a full-time job caring for a parent. This is a good solution for those who want to keep looking after elederly parents but can't afford to do so without a source of extra income. If you have kids and family, you could consider having your parent come live with you. If might be good for both parent and grandchildren to spend more time together.
There can be other major factors that which could have you re-thinking the possibility of a nursing home or elder care center. There can be elderly dementia, which can also lead to Alzheimer’s. This can be a hard situation to handle, especially if you have kids in the home. Children may not understand why their grandparent can be talking to them about something one minute then forget about it the next, or even forget the child's name. Another situation is an elderly, bed-ridden parent. This is definitely a situation where you will be pressured by many to put your parent in a nursing home. While your inital reaction may be to ignore these suggestions, they may be insightful. Severly disabled or bed-ridden people need to be somewhere that they can get proper care. If you are not able to meet the demands of an elderly parent, it may be better to find a place that can.
If you decide to turn the care of your parent over to a nursing home or other facility, consider the following:
- There are hospice type programs where doctors, medical staff, and therapists will go into a patient's home to provide care.
- See if your parent's insurance will at least cover most of the cost.
- Do thorough research. Talk to doctors about some good nursing homes in the area.
- Choose a place (or help your parent choose one) that is close so you can visit often.
- Always stay on top of the care your parent is getting. Make sure the staff knows who you are and that you are monitoring your parent's health and well being.
- Visit your parent whenever possible and take the kids to see them too.
Ultimately, the best elder care choice is the one that benefits you and your parent the most. This could be a home-based situation or a facility like a nursing home or independent living center. Be sure to explore all the options and make your parent a part of the process as much as her health allows. In the end, you'll both rest easier knowing you've made the best decision possible.