Your kids are adults now and have moved out, which leaves just the two (or one!) alone in a big, empty house. So how do you keep busy when the kids move out? Whether they moved out to pursue a college education or start their own family, learn how to cope with the extra free time and space!
Keep Busy On Your Own
- Read a book that you’ve been meaning to get to
- Maybe you’ve been meaning to drop a few pounds or just get yourself healthier. Now is the time to do that. You have extra time to exercise and cook up something healthy
- Get back into a hobby that you love
- Take a class at a local college
- Redecorate your home or a specific room in your house
- Get a part time job to fill up some time
- If you’re single, take the time to meet and date people!
Keep Busy With Your Spouse and Others
- Hang out with other parents who are going through the same thing
- Travel with your spouse to somewhere you’ve always wanted to go
- Cook a fabulous meal with your spouse and eat it in the dining room instead of in front of the TV. Light candles and make it a romantic evening.
- Go see shows with your spouse or friends like ballets, concerts or musicals
- Eat at fancy restaurants and take your time. Don’t rush the meal, just spend your time eating and having a real conversation with your spouse.
- Rekindle that spark! Be more intimate and experiment
Tips on Coping With Your Empty Nest
- Keep in contact with your kids through email, phone calls, or texts
- Visit your kids when everyone has time
- Talk with people about how you feel living in an empty nest. If you are having a severely hard time with it, you many want to speak with a professional
- Keep a journal so you can write your feelings down
- Try to enjoy time with your spouse and make alone time for youself
- Allow yourself to be upset about the kids leaving; it’s normal
- They will always be your children. You’ll always be apart of their lives, especially when they have children of their own. Look forward to being a grandparent!
If your kids have moved out, clearly you’ve done your best as a parent. It’s normal to feel odd or lonely now that your kids have moved out and you’ll need to keep busy until you get used to not having them there.