Summer means the beach, ice cold cocktails, fun times with friends and summer flings! Have you met a guy this summer and realized you want more than a fling?
Adam LoDolce, the Dating-Confidence Coach, says that sometimes when we're at certain points in our lives, we just assume that we're not ready for a relationship. Then BAM, we meet someone that we can't stop thinking about. If this sounds like your summer fling, keep reading for some advice on turning your summer fling into something more!
What is a Summer Fling?
What the Expert Says:
“A summer fling is usually when two people are casually seeing each other over the summer. I've found that my dating coaching practice significantly increases during the summer. Not sure if it's because people want to leave their ‘caves’ in the summer, or what...but people want to mingle in the summer time!” says LoDolce. You’ll be able to tell that you are in a summer fling if either there is an "end" date to the fling, such as someone's moving away at the end of the summer, or if it's a casual, non-committed relationship.
Turn Your Summer Fling Into a Real Relationship
What the Expert Says: Believe it or not, men aren' the only ones looking for a summer fling. “I think that depending on the age group, both men and women are looking for summer flings,” he says. “This is especially the case when people are on vacation. I think of beach town resorts when I think of summer flings, and many times both people involved in the relationship know that it's going to end when the summer ends.”
If you want to turn the fling into something more, then it's time to set your boundaries. “If you have decided that a fling is no longer going to make you happy, you need to be open and express that to the guy. If he's not agreeable, then you need to be wiling to walk away from the situation,” says LoDolce.
“If you have decided that a fling is no longer going to make you happy, you need to be open and express that to the guy. If he's not agreeable, then you need to be wiling to walk away from the situation.” - Adam LoDolce, dating coach
Be honest with him but also be proactive. Invite your “fling” to fall events or fun dinners and dates. Let him know you will still be thinking about him after summer is over. Also, really try to get to know him. Sometimes summer flinging is all about drinking, parties and hooking up but it’s completely okay to be one-on-one and have a quiet night to get to know each other and turn that fling into a lasting love!
To get even more advice on your love life, visit LoDolce's website.