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Oh cookies…it is all I can say. I am going to start of with my last few weeks’ worth of statistics. It is about as interesting as it is going to get.

- Winks about 300
- E-mails 15 (shy)
- People who viewed you 520
- Dates 0
- Upcoming Dates 0

This really is awkward. The most fun I have had is with my girlfriend playing, you don’t fit my criteria. Delete.Next! So am I picky or is it them? Am I setting my standards too high or am I still stuck on that moment when I realized you have absolutely everything I asked for and more. Which means that you must be the guy who will wake up next to me for the next 100 years? Wrong, because you broke up with me. In the parking lot of a Dunkin Donuts in the same week that I lost my job (only to be rewarded with the best one I will ever have), but it all started with you on that Monday night. Here I am two years later and online dating is as close as I am going to get to finding love again.

First I want to start and say thank you for all the wonderful posts. I know I will find Mr. Right when the time is right. On the way to that I do want to share with all of you the fun and not so fun things about getting there. In such a modern world I believe people forget how hard it can be whether you are 25, 30 or 45 for that matter to meet people and really making a connection.How it feels to be home alone on Saturday night when half of your friends are on a date with their significant other or soon to be significant other.

With that said I want to share with you my most recent and random run in with what could have been Mr. Right. He did turn out to be Mr. Creepy. I am not sure if I have mentioned this before but I am putting myself through school. It only makes my days so much longer because I have a full time job and go to school three nights a week and Saturdays. A week ago, my best friend was in town from Ohio and I tried to make the most of every free moment I could so I can see her. We usually have a great time and of course the upside is going out meeting new people.

It has been a while since I sat down and wrote a blog about the wonders of dating in your mid-to-late twenties. Since before Christmas I have been gathering wonderful information on dating and been planning to kick of the New Year and the month of Love with a new idea on dating.

Instead of using the usual online-dating site, I moved to a relationship site. I might want to mention that Mr. Ironman broke it off. We decided to date our separate ways after I discovered that communication is a very important part of a relationship. I do have to say that I was really hanging on to those magical moments snowboarding in the mountains of Maine. My New Year did kick-off pretty spectacular along with bumps and bruises that lasted about 3weeks. So girls my only piece of nugget I want to share is that even when you are sitting on a chair lift up in the air, watching the most beautiful snowflakes flutter down it still hurts to figure out your falling pretty hard yourself. Only, you fell and no one was there to catch you.

When I was a little girl and the youngest of all my cousins...I am still the youngest. The memories I have of weddings is that of my older cousins getting married. Lately I was reminded that my cousins all got married around my age. I believe this is my family' way of telling me I should get a grip on dating. Mostly I blame my cousin who is getting married in April.  She brought up the fact that I still don't have a stable settled relationship because she is a year older than me and marrying a Doctor (not sure why her fiance's career choice is so important to everyone).

All the wedding talk had me thinking. Why is age so important. Why does it matter whether your getting married at 25, 30 or 40? Then I thought maybe it is a cultural thing. The majority of my friends are married, getting married or in a relationship that seems as old as the dinosaurs. After all that thinking it hit me! Single ladies are you ready? This is the perfect time of year to fall in love. It is Christmas the time of year that is about love, peace and happiness. So why not dust of that online dating profile? Go to that boring Christmas holiday party you never know who could crash it or who is new in Accounting.The most important point of it all, do not let anyone push you into marrying Mr. Right Now.

Dating is hard work... I'm not kidding! Getting to know someone is not an easy task. Lately I have been dating someone. No, it is not exclusive. Although, since I am not seeing anyone else, it does make it semi-exclusive? I think. I haven't signed any documents, made any verbal commitments but there is one commitment that has me freaking out. It is the next step.

Obviously the next step is to say no to that stranger at the bar when your out with your friends, right? Why is it that when you are not available? To everyone else that means that you are? Believe me that always causes some confusion. It is one of those maybe the grass will be greener on the other side effects.How do you know that the guy that seems so perfect is really the guy for you. Then again maybe he is Mr. Right now?

It has been a while since I wrote a little blog about love and how I am trying to find it. lol This has me wondering maybe I should let love find me?

I have so many wonderful friends in my life, all of whom have great advice about dating and life. Since I've been doing the online dating thing, I have to ask you...how many bad dates can one have? I'm serious, 4,5 maybe 10? It all gets so hard to do. You get a wink, so you wink back and then nothing. Dude, why did you wink? Then there are the one sentence e-mails. Personally they are my favorite, all they say is: "You are beautiful", "I love your smile". How is this even remotely attractive? It feels like he is saying: "I'm not busy tonight, want to come over? " The best part is where I hit delete. Then of course there is the poor guy who thinks that if he just keeps on sending you the same e-mail eventually even after you reply not interested, you will still write him back.

On a scale of 1-10 on being a fool, I am about a 15 today. I'll start with telling you about the very cute landscaper who shows up every Monday.It is somewhat hard to describe him other than, dark hair, brown eyes, tall and very muscular. Uhm, as my very close friend would say a very nice tall drink of water. My mom used to mention that she would love for Harrison Ford to show up and kick his shoes underneath her bed. I'm finding myself wishing the same about Mr. Landscaper.

Well, today is Monday and of course the usual routine. I go to work, Mr. Landscaper shows up to mow the lawn, etc. There was one exception: today we actually started having a conversation. I happen to mention that my boss is looking for someone that can do some inside painting. It just so happens that his cousin does! I tell my boss who then proceeds to ask me to get his cousin's number. Are you read--because this is where me making a complete fool of myself begins. I walk over and ask him if I can have his cousin's number. He starts searching for what I am assuming is a pen or phone or something. With that, I reach into my bag and write down my number hand it over and say. Just give me a call and I will give your cousin's number to my boss. What I so failed to think of in that moment is, this is the guy who does my boss' landscaping...he already has my boss' number and can just ask his cousin to give him (my boss) a call.

Recently I Discovered I Have a Phobia

One that relates to dating... I am just about 25, single and have now tried all kinds of ways to meet a normal guy. Bars, clubs and eventually online dating. This past week I discovered that I attract the wrong kind of guy. Now I am afraid to pull out that little black dress and red shoes.First I should tell you that I tried the online dating thing thinking that since I am so busy with full time work and full time school I am never going to get out there to meet Mr. Right.

I should have known in the first week.  Granted my best friend just married the love of her life after meeting on j-date. So who am I to say that it doesn't work?

After about 6 weeks of dating one of the guys I met online and thought was normal I broke it off. Since I wanted to spare the poor guy the it is me not you cliche, I told him the truth. I said to him that I am just not feeling it, that I am missing that crucial I want to see you again and can't wait to spend time with you feeling.

We Have All Been There

Whether you are a guy or women, you have done the break-up thing. If you haven't all I can say is...lucky you! This last year and a half was probably the worst I have ever experienced. This week I have to face the facts and man up to what I am calling, growing a pair. I have to let it go and really let it go. There is one problem with my theory, my heart really doesn't want to. My heart hasn't been willing for the last 18 months. I know I sound pathetic... it is also making me cranky...which I really wish it wouldn't.

I've decided to tell you guys about my recent relapse into what I am calling being friends with your ex. Almost a month ago I decided that after two months of no communication with hockey boy I am going to say hi. So I did via e-mail. I get a very short and sweet text message back three days later. Saying he got my message (nice it was an e-mail not a voice-mail dude) and I will call you. Well almost a week to the day I get another text. Would you like to come to a wedding with me? WOW!! The best part is, it is on Saturday and he sent his lovely invite on Wednesday. So is it me or am I good enough for a last minute date but not for a hello in two months? Since I am who I am, I went.