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Healthy Ways of Relating That Exclude Victim Triangle Interaction
The concept of codependency is one that many couples have become familiar with over the last decade or so. Although such terminology as addiction in the past has often been used in refererence to alcoholism or drugs this "addiction" is equally destructive. Psychologists have now come to realize that codependency can refer to any relationship that involves unhealthy emotional dependency. Codependency in relationships occurs when one person in the relationship is credited with and responsible for doing all the giving, and the other partner is expected to take. Both are deeply entrenched and both are truly being hurt by the codependency. Codependency isn't just a problem between couples but also between parents and their adult children. Even work relationships can suffer from codependency.
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The Fairy Tale Probably Never Did End That Way
When you first met things were going wonderful. You though that you had met your ideal partner. Shortly, thereafter, it seems, your perfect life fantasy ended and you can’t figure out why. This same situation happens to many married couples. It's not tv and it not a fairy tale. It's real live marriage and sex in the real world. We don't expect a fairy tale and yet we surely don't expect to lose what's good just because of the march of time. How can couples begin to wake up and learn how to create positive relationships that are able to age and survive. Can you keep your love alive, within a marriage. Drop the fantasy expectations and learn how to make real live marriage last and grow instead of sizzle out.
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 Signs of Infidelity: Why Does He Cheat?
Statistically 85% of monogamous relationships come to an abrupt end because of infidelity. Most often relationships suffer a number of bouts with infidelity before the relationship actually ends. That means that a couple has a 1 in 3 chance the relationship will endure. That's pretty discouraging for someone hoping to start a meaningful relationship. So why is the infidelity rate so high? Researchers believe that a person cheats simply because of their arrogance in thinking that they can get away with it! Basically, this perception is exerted in signs of infidelity very early in the relationship and by not paying attention to them a partner may only encourage the offender to perpetuate their behavior as well as add fuel to their arrogance. Unfortunately, by the time many women finally discover or can prove that he's cheating most often it's too late, which makes it harder to let go of the relationship even though it's already over!
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 The Difference Between a "Cheater" and a Sexual Addict Has Been Identified and It's All About Chemistry and the Brain
If you've ever ridden the emotional roller coaster ride of either living with a partner that suffers with sexual addictions, or you yourself suffer from this relentless life consuming addiction, you know there comes a point when you can no longer cover up the truth. Life becomes unmanagable. Countless sexual addicts in today's society know too well how terrifying that journey is for everyone! What exactly is a sexual addict and how does this illness differ from the bad habits of a plain old cheating spouse? Should you excuse constant infidelity just because of a hypothetical sexual addiction? How do you know for sure what is really going on in the head of someone who may be truly mentally ill. The answer is that the brain of a person suffering from sexual addiction is wired very differently to those people with non-addictive personalities. For a sexual addict the brain does not appear to be able to chemically distinguish a desire from an absolute uncontrollable need. Further evidence comes from comparing brain functioin of imagination to reality. What has been seen on brain scans of sexual addicts is that when told to imagine that he is having sex with a porn star in a film he is watching, the addicts brain looks just the same as it does when he really is having sex.
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 Is Thinking About Cheating the Same as Cheating?
Most often couples consider cheating as a physical action that involves intimacy with another person. However, emotional infidelity is a very real component of cheating that often occurs before the actual act is committed. So what is emotional infidelity? Basically, emotional infidelity is a person's mental and emotional contemplation of another person sexually before acting on it! Generally, emotional cheating can be as harmless as a casual flirt with a platonic friend or as damaging as an obsession over a co-worker or cyber fling. Granted this may sound perplexing, but it actually depends on how opting that person is to acts upon their emotions and the effect this desire has on their relationship. This is when simply thinking about cheating can inundate your daily routine and thoughts that is more damaging to your partner than cheating! Having a better understanding of what is emotional infidelity and what' not; will help you see the sign of emotional cheating before it gets out of hand! Here is some information that can help you discern if your emotional thoughts will lead to more.
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 An Age Old Set of Circumstances, The Songs Have Said it All
Surviving infidelity isn't an easy thing to do, but when someone decides to put you in that position by cheating; you have no choice but to survive it, now do you? Whether you are the cheater or the one who's been hurt through a partner's infidelity; the sad truth is that you will have consequences to deal with regardless of who's to blame. When you have been in a committed relationship, living through betrayal can really tear your entire world apart because you've placed all of your trust and energy into that one person. Understandably it's difficult to even consider moving past the shattered trust and feeling of being let down; but it is necessary whether you decide to move on and begin anew in your life and especially if you want to repair the relationship that has been. It's interesting that given time many who left a partner over infidelity will say they wish they had had better support to stay and work things out. Few who have stayed, wish they'd have left. It all depends on your perception of the value of an existing relationship. Is is worth the difficulty to mend?
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I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought jewelry. 
