Summer means the beach, ice cold cocktails, fun times with friends and summer flings! Have you met a guy this summer and realized you want more than a fling?
Adam LoDolce, the Dating-Confidence Coach, says that sometimes when we're at certain points in our lives, we just assume that we're not ready for a relationship. Then BAM, we meet someone that we can't stop thinking about. If this sounds like your summer fling, keep reading for some advice on turning your summer fling into something more!
What the Expert Says:
“A summer fling is usually when two people are casually seeing each other over the summer. I've found that my dating coaching practice significantly increases during the summer. Not sure if it's because people want to leave their ‘caves’ in the summer, or what...but people want to mingle in the summer time!” says LoDolce. You’ll be able to tell that you are in a summer fling if either there is an "end" date to the fling, such as someone's moving away at the end of the summer, or if it's a casual, non-committed relationship.
What the Expert Says: Believe it or not, men aren' the only ones looking for a summer fling. “I think that depending on the age group, both men and women are looking for summer flings,” he says. “This is especially the case when people are on vacation. I think of beach town resorts when I think of summer flings, and many times both people involved in the relationship know that it's going to end when the summer ends.”
If you want to turn the fling into something more, then it's time to set your boundaries. “If you have decided that a fling is no longer going to make you happy, you need to be open and express that to the guy. If he's not agreeable, then you need to be wiling to walk away from the situation,” says LoDolce.
“If you have decided that a fling is no longer going to make you happy, you need to be open and express that to the guy. If he's not agreeable, then you need to be wiling to walk away from the situation.” - Adam LoDolce, dating coach
Be honest with him but also be proactive. Invite your “fling” to fall events or fun dinners and dates. Let him know you will still be thinking about him after summer is over. Also, really try to get to know him. Sometimes summer flinging is all about drinking, parties and hooking up but it’s completely okay to be one-on-one and have a quiet night to get to know each other and turn that fling into a lasting love!
To get even more advice on your love life, visit LoDolce's website.
As we grow older, we begin to reminisce about the past. You may wonder what your high school friends are up to these days, or whether an old boyfriend or girlfriend is married with kids. And you wouldn't be alone—seven in 10 online adults have searched for information about other people (we bet that seven out of seven looked up an old flame!). So what are the best ways to find someone you haven't seen in 10, 20, even 30 years? It isn't as hard as you might think. Here are three ways to connect with long-lost friends.
According to the Pew Research Center, nearly two-thirds (65 percent) of American adults use social networking sites, so it's very likely that whoever you're looking for is on Facebook, LinkedIn or Twitter. Even if he or she is not, you may find a family member or other friends you had in common who might be able to help you connect with your old friend. On Facebook, there are many school groups—find yours, join it and then post a message saying that you're looking for someone specific.
Classmates.com is a great website for reconnecting with your friends from high school. With the largest directory of high schools and class lists available anywhere, covering 57 million people and including maiden names, Classmates makes finding, reconnecting and staying up to date with your high school class fun and easy. They even have more than 300,000 digitized high school yearbooks available for you to view and share photos. And if you're looking to organize and set up a high school reunion, Classmates can help with that too.
Your alma mater may be of help when it comes to finding classmates. Most schools keep track of their alumni for donation purposes or for informing them of upcoming functions. Sometimes they may even publish directories, which is especially helpful for finding a female friend who may have changed her last name.
These are the shining faces of Awesome Girls. These girls and their stories of hope and determination are timeless, just like the newest BeForever™ character from American Girl, Melody Ellison™.
Melody is a 9-year-old growing up in Detroit, Michigan, during the civil rights movement of the 1960s. Melody learns that despite her young age, she can lift her voice to speak out and stand up for equal rights. Her uplifting story reminds girls that ordinary people can do extraordinary things when they come together to make a difference.
This is, in fact, the theme behind American Girl's #LiftYourVoice campaign, which encourages girls to share stories of how they are creating positive change in their community.
Here at Melody's story inspired us to highlight some Awesome Girls who are lifting their voices to make our world a better place. Like Melody, they shine through their amazing compassion, perseverance, motivation and altruism.
Meet our Awesome Girls, whose creative hearts and take-charge attitudes will spark a spirit of change beyond their own communities.
Alanna Wall took her love of all things beautiful and turned it into a movement of hope and inspiration for young girls in the hospital. At 10 years old, Alanna was told she was too young to participate in her local hospital's volunteer program, but her compassionate spirit led her to create LEARN MORE ABOUT ALANNA
Sadie McCallum put her imagination to work when her limited ability to walk was getting in the way of following her passion. At just 9 years old she partnered with her sister to invent the Amazing Curb Climber, which makes her walker more like an all-terrain vehicle and allows her to be more independent. Her innovation is a shining example that nothing is impossible when you put your mind to it. Sadie lifts her voice to overcome obstacles and surpass her limits. LEARN MORE ABOUT SADIE
Eliana de la Casas discovered her talents for cooking and creating new dishes at an early age, and wanted to share the experience with other kids. By age 10, the "Kid Chef" was cooking on local television programs and spreading her mantra that "cool kids cook." Through writing cookbooks and hosting a radio show, Eliana hopes that kids will explore new foods and flavors. Eliana lifts her voice to empower kids in the kitchen. LEARN MORE ABOUT ELIANA
From Hailey Fort's first encounter with the homeless, she began planting the seed of change in her community. At 9 years old, Hailey started growing her charitable giving, and inspiring others to give as well. From building a mobile shelter to planting a garden for the homeless, she sees a need and takes action. Hailey lifts her voice to motivate others to make a difference. LEARN MORE ABOUT HAILEY
Who loves reading their horoscope? We do! We do! Womensforum takes it a step further and throws in shopping (of course we did!) to give you a girl's girl look at your sign.
We all want to raise intelligent and empowered girls. But it isn't always easy. How do you teach your daughter about women who are doing amazing things if you don't know a ton of women who are doing amazing things? Maybe you're looking for help encouraging a positive body image or you just need guidance on how to answer those awkward puberty questions… without sounding awkward.
That's where these websites come in. Some are resource-heavy with great videos and interviews, and some offer helpful materials like books, games and toys. All of them aim to help girls and women feel comfortable in their own skin and empower them to do great things.
A Mighty Girl is self-proclaimed the "world's largest collection of books, toys, movies and music for parents, teachers and others dedicated to raising smart, confident and courageous girls." The founders, Carolyn Danckaert and Aaron Smith, started the site when they were looking for inspiring books for their nieces and had a hard time finding them.
Search for books, toys and even costumes for your mighty girl based on characters, genres or interests, all while making sure what you're searching for is age-appropriate. Their blog includes lists of books for different categories, like bedtime books, books about charity and community service, or toys and games for indoor active play. Be sure to follow them on Facebook because they are always posting quotes and stories from mighty girls, women and men throughout history.
SheHeroes "empowers young girls of all backgrounds to dream big, explore their interests and passionately pursue nontraditional careers. Through our online content and video profiles, girls imagine their own potential by engaging with influential stories of exceptional, successful women role models across all fields."
SheHeroes has dozens of inspirational videos on their website like profiles of successful women and interesting news and facts about women and girls.
"Founded by artist Amy Poehler and producer Meredith Walker, Amy Poehler’s Smart Girls organization is dedicated to helping young people cultivate their authentic selves. We emphasize intelligence and imagination over 'fitting in.' We celebrate curiosity over gossip. We are a place where people can truly be their weird and wonderful selves. We are funny first, and informative second, hosting the party you want to attend."
Founded by one of our favorite comedians and actresses, Amy Poehler's Smart Girls has something for girls (and boys!) to watch and learn something new or confirm what they already know—which is how awesome they are! There are 15 YouTube shows to date with new episodes being released regularly.
"Since the first catalog debuted in 1986, American Girl has provided inspiring products for each stage of a young girl's development—from her preschool days of baby dolls and fantasy play through her tween years of self-expression and individuality. Through an array of premium-quality books, dolls, clothes, toys and accessories, American Girl has earned the loyalty of millions of girls and the praise and trust of parents and educators."
American Girl is known for their dolls and the books that come with them, but they also sell award-winning books that help girls learn about everything from crafting and cooking to their changing bodies and dealing with bullies. Their website has tons of activities for girls, and their magazine highlights the message "You're great—just the way you are!"
Girls Inc. "develops research-based informal education programs that encourage girls to take risks and master physical, intellectual and emotional challenges. Major programs address math and science education, pregnancy and drug abuse prevention, media literacy, economic literacy, adolescent health, violence prevention and sports participation." They fund their own research arm, advocate on behalf of women and girls locally and nationally, and provide scholarships to young women.
Girls Inc. has been providing programs for young working women and young girls since the first affiliate formed in 1864 in Waterbury, Connecticut. They've had a long history, and today they continue to serve women and girls throughout the United States and Canada.