Explaining to a first grader how to handle both positive and negative peer pressure may seem a bit awkward at first, but considering the diversity of influences on kids in public schools and the reality of all kinds of peer pressure and at increasingly young ages , teaching your child about negative peer pressure should not be put off. It will be equally as important as talking to him or her about sex. Not to mention equipping a child with the hard facts on peer pressure in grade school is vital to his or her overall educational success for years to come. If the truth be told, sending a child to school without the proper understanding of what peer pressure is can place that child in harms way by his or her own accord! In the end, a child that understands peer pressure automatically knows better how to handle peer pressure! Plus it will give your child a huge advantage over unsavory behaviors and influences prevalent in most grade schools. Therefore, reviewing this information and considering these tips will help children make wiser decisions when dealing with the peer pressures of grade school!
Give Your Child Sound Advice About Negative Peer Pressure
Before a child can effectively deal with peer pressure they have to first know what it is first. Peer pressure is the influence of one or more children on another sometimes by bandwagon appeal, coercion or sometimes outright chiding and teasing if the pressure is not given into. Peer pressure is used to persuade another child to do something the children often in both parties already realize is wrong and could get them in serious trouble. The more children that are talked into contributing in the "bad" behavior, the less all have to feel guilty about it, thus, the motivation behind much peer pressure. If your child understands the motivation of the peer pressure, the easier it is for your child to resist it.
Sometimes the manipulation of that child's reputation is the bait used to persuade him or her to go against their better judgment! For example the pressures posed by one child egging on another to smoke or drink in order to look cool among their friends and uncool if they don't. In this case it can be useful to point out that smoking and drinking is not what constitutes coolness, as kids in this example falsely claim, but that the way one treats another is the authentic meaning of coolness and that manipulating someone out of their own free choice is definitely not very cool. This knowledge will likely provide your child with the appropriate verbal response.
Much of the time, children are greatly influence by peer pressure to gain acceptance and adulation from their classmates and others kids. But peer pressure can also come from siblings and older children as well. What parents should also talk to a child about is the peer pressure in the media and how it adds fuel to the influences inspired by their classmates. For example attempting outrageous antics performed on various TV and cable shows kids have access to nowadays. Thus, media being the ultimate form of peer pressure. Equipping children with a concise understanding of peer pressure in through this medium is also an important part of modern parenting. Strategies of imparting this understanding are important to how the child will be in his or her reception and trust of your knowledge. The way you talk to your child in this kind of discussion is the tricky part. Preaching can turn a child off but lack of firmness can make your child not take you as seriously as they should.
Four Strategies Kids Can Use To Avoid Negative Peer Pressure
Kids in grade school are confronted daily by different levels and types of peer pressure. Whether it's as harmless as passing notes in class or more serious offenses like skipping class or bullying other kids, children will be inundated with a multitude of opportunities to take the bait of peer pressure or avoiding it all together. Here are 4 key strategies kids can use to avoid negative influences:
- Affirm the adage "You are who you hang with". Instilling the ability in your child to choose the right group of friends is the most important strategy a child can implement.
- Recognition of bad influences is also a good tool kids can use to avoid negative pressure from peers. This can be clarified by telling your child, that if someone asks them to break rules or do something that feels wrong, it is most likely a bad influence.
- Keeping an open line of communication with a child when they have pressing questions about peer pressure is essential for helping kids make the right decisions. Keep the trust with your child that will enable them to do this.
- And finally explaining in detail the repercussions of following negative peer pressure is a great deterrent and the perfect invitation for kids in grade school to simply walk away! Tell them some examples of unhappy people who probably ended up that way out of peer pressure.
Teaching kids methods of handling negative peer pressure as well as the different influence peers, media and other people have is a start. Especially since negative influences can weight heavily on a young impressionable mind to the point it becomes distressing. And if not properly addressed negative peer pressure can and will alter a child's social behavior, interactions and perceptions of others. This is a lesson that will empower them to begin to follow their own life and dreams for the rest of schooling and the rest of their life.