Dealing with the aftermath of domestic violence or domestic abuse is different for every survivor. While there are some commonalities for everyone who has experienced abuse, the recovery process is different for all. One of the best ways to recover from domestic violence is to take a step back and with the help of loved ones or a counselor, reexamine the situation through a new set of eyes.
By asking questions and understanding the situation from a new perspective, you can start the process of healing. At first, it might seem painful, but after a period of reflection and thought, the bruises will heal and so will your heart. Consider these thoughts after experiencing abuse:
- The victim is not responsible for the abuse that was incurred
- No one deserves to be battered or abused
- As a survivor, you made the best choices you could at the time
- The survivor is most responsible for their personal process of healing
- Even if the survivor feels that life is out of control, internal reflection can help curb the damage
- Friends might not understand how you feel or what you experienced but they are there to help
- Living inside an environment that is consistently chaotic requires unusual means of coping
- Cutting off contact with your abuser can prevent more damage before it starts
- Take care of your physical needs through diet and exercise
- Avoid emotional stressors for a period of time. Taking care of yourself after you experience abuse can help you rebuild your life or start a new one completely.
By surrounding yourself with supportive loved ones and a team of counselors, beginning again is only a few steps away.