June is the month for marriage and over 25% of today's marriages and families include children from previous marriages or relationships. More and more parents are including their children in their wedding plans and wedding vows to commit to love and honor each other as a couple and as a family. Including children in the wedding vows helps them to understand and accept that they are part
of a new family union because couples with children are forming a union between more than two people. Writing family vows is a wonderful way to cement these new family relationships.
Sample Wedding Vows for Family Members
Marriage vows are promises the bride and groom give to each other as they declare their love and commitment to each other at their wedding ceremony. Some:
Personalized sample wedding vows including children can include a separate paragraph or vow to love and honor the children:
- '_______________, as I stand here before you in the presence of God and these witnesses, I _______________ take you to be my Wife/Husband. I vow to love you, cherish you, and honor you in good times and bad, with all of my heart until the end of our days.'
- '_______________, I not only stand here and promise to be a loving and faithful Husband/Wife, I promise to be a patient, loving and caring Father/Mother to (Children's Names). I accept them as my own and promise to always be there for them, to listen to them, advise them, and love them until the end of our days.'
Traditional responsorial sample wedding vows including childrenadd vows as promises and responses to love, cherish, and protect the children of this new family and ask the children to love and honor their new parent.
- 'Do you, _______________, take, _______________, to be your Wife/Husband? Do you promise to love, honor, and cherish her/him, forsaking all others and hold only unto her/him?'
- Response: 'I do.'
- 'I _______________, take thee, _______________ to be my Wife/Husband to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, and I promise my love only to you for all the days of my life.
- Do you _______________, take (Children) to love, cherish, and protect as your own until the end of your days?'
- Response: 'I do.'
- 'And now, (Children's Names), do you promise to love, honor, and respect your new parent? Do you promise to support their marriage and your new family as you encourage and support each other in your new life together?'
- Response by Child/Children: 'We do.'
One thing to keep in mind as couples make wedding plans including children is the exchange of rings. As the couple exchanges rings as a symbol of their commitment and love they should include gifts for themselves and their children as a symbol of family unity, commitment, and love for all.
- '(Bride) and (Groom) today you are promising your love to one another, and you are pledging your love to your children as well, committing to them and to each other to create a family together.
- (Children's Names), your parents would like to present these gifts (mementos to be determined) to you as a symbol of their commitment, trust, and love.'
Giving away the Bride:
- Officiate: Who brings (Bride) to be married to (Groom)?
- Children of the Bride: We do.
Giving away the Groom:
- Officiate: Who brings (Groom) to be married to (Bride)?
- Children of the Groom: We do.
- Officiate: (Children's names), your mother, (Bride), has chosen to share her life with (Groom). Will you receive him as your father, and at all times give him your love, respect, and honor?
- Children of the Bride: We will.
- Officiate: (Children's names), your father, (Groom), has chosen to share his life with (Bride). Will you receive her as your mother, and at all times give her your love, respect, and honor?
- Children of the Groom: We Will.
It takes time to develop relationships in blended families, but it is important to the success of the marriage that the children feel they are part of the new family. Including the children in the wedding planning and ceremony establishes a good foundation for the family and future relationships.