Nowadays many people may associate the "Three Day Rule" with a “white-glove” personalized matchmaking company backed by Match.com. The company has matchmakers in Los Angeles, San Francisco, New York, Chicago, Boston, and most recently, DC. But originally the "Three Day Rule" referred to an age old dating rule: A man should wait three days before contacting a woman he’s interested in for the first time.
But today there are really no rules in dating. Women ask men out - men ask out women. Many people text instead of making a personal phone call, and some break ups even can occur via a Facebook post. But for those of you who are newly single for the first time in a long time, don't let the thought of dating in the digital age scare you off.
According to the CEO and founder of the Three Day Rule, Talia Goldstein, "You don't have to date online. There are other options besides online dating to meet new people. Ask your friends to set you up, pick up a new hobby, attend professional networking events, or work with a matchmaker."
Also, as the population over forty has found themselves increasingly more single than twenty years ago, finding a date in your ideal age range is certainly possible. But do note that dating is very different in your twenties versus your forties, and typically for the better.
"In general, timing is everything,' said Goldstein. "When you're in your twenties, you probably dated guys that you were compatible with and were great boyfriends, but ultimately weren't ready to settle down. The good news is that when you're in your forties, the men will generally be more committed and serious about settling down. There will be less game-playing and more opportunities for meaningful relationships."
"In general, timing is everything." - Talia Goldstein
Goldestein also notes that the confidence you now have in your forties also plays a big factor when it comes to dating, "By the time you’re in your forties, you've had a lot of life experiences, so you are confident in who you are and what you’re looking for in a partner. Because you know so much about yourself and your preferences, you are more likely to make better choices when it comes to picking the right person for you long-term."
If you've already been married or have kids, the over-forty dating experience may be even less stressful.
"You have more time to enjoy the process of dating and meeting people, rather than focusing on a specific end goal of getting married or having kids," says Goldstein. "With no biological clock ticking, you can take your time when you date. Additionally, in your forties you've had time to build your career and are financially stable, which opens up your options as far as dates go."