He Loves You. He Loves You Not.
Valentine's Day approaches. Sorry, this simply is not that fairy tale life mom read us stories about when we were growing up. It's a whole new world out there and there is nothing like a whole month of Sunday ads heralding Valentines' Day to bring reality crisply into view. The flower shops and the candy stores build the excitement for weeks and all you can see when you close your eyes to sleep at night is the fabulously red and rich Lovers' Day Valentine hoopla. One wonders, what's love got to do with it? Plenty, actually.
St. Valentine's Day as Relationship Check Up Day
Perhaps there is no time like V Day to do a serious relationship check up. So what is really up with your relationship? This is one occasion when it really matters. The sensitive male female relationship balance gets very delicate this time of year and there is nothing like Valentine's Day to put your potential or flailing relationship under the magnifying glass.
Perhaps you've been married for five years, ten years or fifteen years. Or maybe you just started dating a month ago. Ah, so, you say you've basically been sleeping together off and on for a few months, but usually kind of by chance. Oh, oh. (Yeah, you say to yourself, whatever happened to "dating"? )
And, I hate to say it but darling if you've been making the booty calls yourself, you might as well forget about February 14th altogether.
Frankly, chances are not much better even if you've been dating steadily for three months. The defining factor as to whether you will get a Valentine's Day present is that there have been absolutely NO words of commitment, neither has there been a request or a promise of exclusivity. If you haven't talked about relationship, then in terms of the Sweetheart Valentine gift potential, it's probably not happening.
See Dick Save Money
Relationship is everything when it comes to commemoration of St. Valentines' Day through the buying and giving of "gifts"; and much hangs in the balance. Actually for many women, Valentine's Day is a day of reckoning. So, is you is or is you not? Going to get a pressie? Or even a card (99cents - $6?) Box of Chocolates? ($2.99 - $29.99) Bouquet of flowers? ($7.95 - $59.99) Answer honestly, are you are "in" an, at least verbally defined, relationship or at least "kind of" dating "kind of" seriously? Cause if you are not- the next couple of weeks are really going to suck.
Basically, it's really important to get your status down tight by the end of January. Typically women in undefined relationships find themselves wondering as the first week of February kind of slinks on by. "Hmmm. What's it going to be this year?"
See Dick Run From Commmittment
We have noticed in general that if the dating has been light and only for a month or two, there is a good chance he's going to kind of disappear right around the beginning of the second week of February only to resurface as if nothing happened a few days after the 14th of February.
We have, in fact, encountered men who resent not always having known about the "Guy's CYA Rule" of breaking up before Thanksgiving and getting back together after Valentine's Day. Some guys, the urban myth goes, spend years of their lives spending all their money and still being unable to live up to the romantic expectations they percieve women have of creating perfect holiday happiness and gift bliss. "So, why even bother," the sentiment goes.
You get the picture and you know the drill. Don't wait til the last minute, get some insurance going on for your sanity's sake. And throw a great St. Valentine's Day party in defiance. Or at least prepare yourself for the disappearing lover, boyfriend act.
