The secret that lies behind weddings: What's the real motive?
Imagine going to a wedding, giving a gift basket of food, and receiving the following text a few days later:
"I want to thank you for coming to the wedding Friday. I'm not sure if it's the first wedding you have been to, but for your next wedding … people give envelopes. I lost out on $200 covering you and your date’s plate… and got fluffy whip and sour patch kids in return. Just a heads-up for the future."
The guest who received this message wrote in part, “You should never host a party that you cannot afford, or expect your guests to pay for it.”
Another message then came from the bride, “Weddings are to make money for your future. Not to pay for peoples meals.”
Then things got a little nasty.
Giving Money at Weddings: What Do You Think?
Was this woman out of line, or was it reasonable to send this text message to a wedding guest? Are weddings a celebration or an opportunity for the happy couple to cash in?
Personally, I would say that the bride was way out of line. While the gift that was given may have been a bit odd by some standards, it should have been accepted graciously. When you host a wedding (or any party for that matter,) the people coming are your guests! You should not expect them to ‘buck up’ with a large cash gift, nor should you have an expectation that you will make money from your wedding.
While some cultures may traditionally give gifts of cash at a wedding, for others this is not the tradition. In our multicultural society, one should not make assumptions, nor have expectations based on just their culture.
In short, I think the bride should have said nothing. She was wrong to send this message, and she showed extremely poor manners and a lack of class.
That’s my opinion. I’d love to hear what you think below!
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